Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

This is an interesting topic that many of our scholars have addressed. I would like to share some quick points:

1. Our principle is we are all the same, and equal, and our virtue over others is only in taqwa. 

2. Not every narration mentioned is to be taken as authentic. Many narrations are fabricated.

3. There are Arabic expressions that one understands on face, but linguists and experts have explained it carrying different meaning that the meaning commonly used. for example, "shadid al-sawad", does not mean extremely black, it means someone who does not die their hair, even though they are of old age. Or a "qawm of jinn" this does not mean they are jinn, but they hide in mountains, do not socialise, so "jinn" here does not mean the jinn creature, but the literal meaning of "concealing and hiding". 

4. There are narrations about the people of Kufah, or the people of Esfahan and not loving Ahlul Bayt (a.s.). If authentic, it could be referring to a group of people, or a certain situation, or specific for a time, not generalising and forever. 

5. The word "zinj" has numerous meanings, and does not only mean "black people". In principle, our Islamic values condemn such an attitude, and is categorically rejected, so therefore, it must be referring to something else other than what is commonly taken as its meaning.

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Bismihi ta'āla

There are numerous narrations that speak about a miscarried child and how our Prophet (s.a.w.) will boast about his ummah, even a miscarried fetus. Narrations mention the baby will intercede at the door of Heaven for its parents, and so on. 

Please read this book: Soothing the Heart of the Bereaved, by Shahid al-Thani 

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Bismihi ta'āla

Please refer to previous answers regarding this topic of istikharah and marriage. They will be useful for you to read. Should you and your family have done due dilligence in investigating him and how religious he is and his high akhlaq and there is compatibility between the both of you, rely on your judgment and corect evaluation, rather than istikharah.

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Bismihi ta'āla

You must refer to your Marja' taqleed on whether it is sinful to have and display drawings. Most of our contemporary esteemed jurists do not deem them has prohibited. 

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Bismihi ta'āla

They do a new nikah, and remarry.

I would advise that they address their previous issues, so as to not repeat them again.

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Bismihi ta'āla

Men and women, mahram or non-mahram, must always observe boundaries between each other. With mahram, the boundaries are less, but there still are boundaries. 

Most of what you have mentioned in your question is crossing the boundary, or should be avoided, so as to not all into haram. 

We cannot say he might have incestuous tendency, but it is not normal behaviour for a son to sleep right beside his mother and spend nights in her room, etc. He might have more feminine tendency, hence these activities, but it is also his mother to be responsible for this as well. 

I would advise someone have a talk with both of them, about boundaries, and the possible shaytani influence that could corrupt anyone.

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Bismihi ta'āla

This topic has been addressed here a few times. What we can clearly say is that it is definitely culturally unacceptable for Muslim men to do this, and this would be enough for a male to refrain from having earrings.

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Bismihi ta'āla

Although a believer must never put himself in a position where they are criticised, and the criticism could be valid, there are things one cannot avoid. 

If you have tried to explain that throwing away good food is rejecting the bounties of Allah (kufr al-ni'mah), and there is nothing bad about eating something from the day before, then you have done your duty. 

There are people who just do not like eating leftover food, even if it is good. That is their preference, and you can do nothing about it. Of course, if they are "wasting", then this would be haram.

Many find it very normal to eat the same food for a few days, and there is nothing wrong with that, and it does not have anything to do with being kind or stingy.

What you prioritise is your choice, cooking daily, or eating from yesterday's food, both are personal choices and depends of each individuals choice and circumstances. The point is that if someone chooses to eat leftover food, it has nothing to do with being stingy.

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Bismihi ta'āla

Such a thing is cheating and lying. It is unlawful, illegal and very unethical.

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Bismihi ta'āla

No, they are not considered 'haram to use', but najis, and therefore should not be used, especially when your hair is wet.

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Bismihi ta'āla

If you have assurance that they are genuine and telling the truth, it would be permissible to use, even if they lack certification. 

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Bismihi ta'āla

This is definitely inappropriate, and something should have been done from the very first time.You are right, it is unacceptable, and very wrong. Your husband must stop him, and if he does not, then you must stop him, or involve your family or elders to stop this, or move out with your husband to a place where you have your privacy. 

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