Sexual

197948

I follow Sayyid Sistani and have heard differing views regarding oral sex. Can you clarify whether it is considered Makruh or Mubah within marriage? Also, is it permissible for a wife to perform oral sex while on her menstrual cycle?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 2 weeks ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

Oral sex is permitted and is not makruh. However, one should not swallow anything which is najis such as semen. Swallowing such liquids would be haram. It is also permitted for a wife to perform oral sex while in the state of hayd.

May Allah grant you success

197332

Husband . Wife . Sexual

Is it permissible for a husband to touch and kiss his wife’s private parts, and to have intercourse while both are fully naked?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 1 month ago

Wa Alaykum Assalam wr wb.
Yes it is permissible to do all acts mentioned in your 1 and 2 questions.

Wassalam.

196872

Ghusl . Sexual

After having intercourse, I urinated about 5 minutes later and then immediately performed Ghusl. About 15 minutes later, I noticed a sticky liquid in my underwear. Is it necessary to repeat the Ghusl in this situation?

After urinating, all the remaining semen has gone away. The liquid which you saw later is called Wathi وذي which is not Najis and does not require any Ghusl or Wudhu. You do not need to repeat your Ghusl.

Wassalam.

196487

Husband . Wife . Sexual

Is it permissible for a husband and wife to use sex toys to enhance satisfaction during their intimate relationship?

Husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between themselves using any part of their own body. Using sex toys is not permissible between husband and wife because it involves something else not from their own body.

Wassalam..

196171

Time . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Sexual

Does a Mutah marriage automatically end when the specified time expires? If intimacy was a prerequisite, does that influence the conclusion of the Mutah?

Mut'ah is a time fixed Islamic marriage which ends automatically on the end of the agreed time. Both can renew the Mut'ah by reciting another Mut'ah contract with a Mahr and a new period of time if they wish.
'Wassalam.

195160

Salah (Prayers) . Wudu (Ablution) . Sexual

What should one do if Madhy, pre-seminal fluid, is emitted during prayer? Is it necessary to repeat the prayer or perform Wudu again?

Mathy مَذي is not Najis and it does not harm Wudu. You don't need to perform Wudu again just because of Mathy.

Wassalam.

194896

Wife . Divorce . Sexual

Is male medical castration permissible if a wife has refused intimacy for a year? I fear divorce and losing my son but feel unloved and lacking in confidence. What are my options?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

No, it is not permissible.

If wife refuses intimacy, this is haram for her, she become nāshizah, and it is grounds for divorce, if she persists.

Why would you lose your son. Sharing custody, and being civil about it is very important and to the benefit of both sides.

Marriage counselling and mediation is also very important.

And Allah knows best

194876

Sexual . Haram . Marriage

How can someone manage intense sexual urges while fearing Haram actions, especially when they feel unprepared for marriage and do not wish to pursue temporary marriage as an option? What are appropriate ways to cope with these feelings?

Bismihi ta'āla

If one feels they are "unprepared" for marriage, then should work on preparing themselves, and make that their fundamental priority. Nothing is better than getting married.

Pursuing temporary marriage is not going result in long-term solution, so it is good they do not wish to pursue it.

Sexual lust is natural, given to us by Allah ta'ala for many benefits. We just need to regulate it, and control it when needed. We are all prone to becoming weak in our self-control, and Shaytan could overcome us. However, with jihad al-nafs, and resisting haram urges, one will see wonders.

Strong focus on acts of worship is one effective method of coping with lust, especially prayer and connecting with the Lord.

Avoid anything that leads to rising of lust, like what you see, or hear. Try to fast, as the Prophet (s.a.w.) advised.

Occupy yourself with various activities. Try not to be alone, and interact with family members more.

The element of dua is also very important. Immerse yourself in supplications, beseeching Allah and imploring Him to keep you pure, and grant you a righteous spouse.

And Allah knows best

194633

Ghusl . Sexual . Doubt . Sawm (Fasting)

I have been uncertain about my Ghusl and consider repeating my Ghusl and keep questioning my fasts. What is the best course of action for me in this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

You must completely ignore and dismiss these thoughts of doubt. The best course of action to rid yourself of waswasah, or developing waswasah is to dismiss these thoughts and ignore them, and never repeat what you have done.

And Allah knows best

194156

Makruh . Sexual

Is ejaculation in the mouth of the wife permissible if not ingested or consumed by her? If allowed, is it classified as Makruh?

Bismihi ta'āla

Yes, it would be allowed, as long as what is mentioned is observed.

No, it would not be classified as makruh.

And Allah knows best

194196

Makruh . Sexual

Is it allowed to be fully naked with your spouse during intimacy? If allowed, is it considered Makruh such that it should be avoided?

Bismihi ta'āla

Yes, it is allowed, but jurists include it as one of the makruh things to do when with spouse. Some jurists also said that this is specific to the man. He can still have a top on, or cover himself with something.

One view is that this at a time that the intention to copulate is for conceiving a child, where all mustahab and makruh things should be observed, as angels could attend, and out of shyness to the angels. This view is based on a hadith from Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.), from the Prophet (s.a.w.).

And Allah knows best

193551

Sexual . Islamic medicine

Is there any mention of a cure for premature ejaculation (PE) and erectile dysfunction (ED) in Islamic teachings?

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern for millions of men and their wives, and while it can be a sensitive topic, Islamic teachings emphasize the importance of health, well-being, and mutual satisfaction in marital relationships. Here are some Islamic perspectives and guidance that may help: 1. **Understanding and Patience**: Islam encourages patience and understanding between spouses. It is important for both partners to communicate openly about their concerns and feelings. Recognizing that PE is a common issue can help reduce anxiety and stress. 2. **Seeking Knowledge**: Islam places a high value on seeking knowledge. It may be beneficial to learn more about the causes of premature ejaculation, which can be psychological, physiological, or a combination of both. Understanding the issue can help in finding effective solutions. 3. **Consulting Professionals**: Seeking medical advice from a qualified healthcare professional is encouraged. Islam supports seeking treatment for health issues, and there are various therapies and techniques available to help manage PE. 4. **Dua and Prayer**: Turning to Allah in prayer (dua) for help and guidance is an important aspect of Islamic practice. You can ask for strength, patience, and solutions to your challenges. 5. **Strengthening the Relationship**: Focus on building intimacy and emotional connection with your spouse. Engaging in non-sexual forms of intimacy can help strengthen the bond and reduce performance anxiety. 6. **Techniques and Practices**: There are various techniques that can help manage premature ejaculation, such as: - **Behavioral Techniques**: Methods like the "stop-start" technique or the "squeeze" technique can help in gaining better control. - **Mindfulness and Relaxation**: Practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help reduce anxiety and improve sexual performance. 7. **Healthy Lifestyle**: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle through proper diet, exercise, and avoiding excessive stress can contribute to overall sexual health. 8. **Education on Sexual Health**: Understanding sexual health from an Islamic perspective can help couples navigate their sexual relationship more effectively. There are many resources available that discuss sexual health in the context of Islam. 9. **Consulting Religious Scholars**: If you have specific concerns about how to approach this issue within the framework of Islamic teachings, consider consulting a knowledgeable religious scholar who can provide guidance based on Islamic principles. Remember, every couple is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to seek help can go a long way in addressing concerns related to premature ejaculation.
‘Wassalam.