Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). The definition of marriage varies around the world not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion, evolving to both expand and constrict in who and what is encompassed, but typically it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity.

198455

Marriage . Sin

Is it true that marriage is not obligatory and individuals who choose not to marry but remain chaste and focus on their careers will not be considered sinful?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 1 day ago

Yes

Marriage is recommended in the sunnah, and in a good situation, can provide stability, security, support, spiritual blessings, and happiness, and women in particular (even today) tend to enjoy a higher standard of living and more security when married. Of course, sometimes it doesn't work out well. Anyway it is optional, and some important sacred figures like Hazrat Maryam (a) were not married (in the view of Muslims).

This is a Shii view, and some Sunnis debate whether marriage is obligatory or not (although a good number of Sunnis would say it is not).

198062

Sister . Marriage

What can I do as a sister when my siblings are struggling to find suitable partners despite their efforts, especially with my sister approaching her 30s?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 week ago

Keep on noble efforts to find a suitable person as well as praying to Allah (SWT) to Guide and Help and Bless.
reciting this verse is also very helpful in marriage ( إنَّ هذا لَرِزقُنا ما لَهُ مِن نَفاد)

Sura 38, verse 54.

Wassalam.

198170

Girl . Parents . Sadness . Marriage . Sin

If a chaste girl chooses not to marry, despite being respectful to her parents and financially independent, is she considered to be sinning because it causes her parents sadness?

She is not obliged or bound to marry if she has valid reasons to refrain from marriage, but she must keep her parents' respect and never cause them or any one of them any sort of disrespect or sadness.

Wassalam.

197948

Makruh . Mubah . Marriage . Sexual

I follow Sayyid Sistani and have heard differing views regarding oral sex. Can you clarify whether it is considered Makruh or Mubah within marriage? Also, is it permissible for a wife to perform oral sex while on her menstrual cycle?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 2 weeks ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

Oral sex is permitted and is not makruh. However, one should not swallow anything which is najis such as semen. Swallowing such liquids would be haram. It is also permitted for a wife to perform oral sex while in the state of hayd.

May Allah grant you success

197311

Time . Slavery . Marriage . Woman . Polygamy . Qur'an

In the context of slavery, did female slaves automatically hold the same status as wives? If that is the case, what is the significance of marriage to slaves mentioned in the Qur'an? Why is marriage necessary if ownership implied a marital relationship?

Slavery rules were never started by Muslims but were already existing in different societies of the time when Islam came. Slavery rules are an outcome of wars. Islamic rules aimed to diminish slavery and finish it off. Slavery rules can not be taken as permanent rules for life but only in war and after war under many conditions.

Slave female from war between Nin Muslims against Muslims is not like a full wife of the owner who has the full rights of justice between her and other wife and inheritance from her husband. When the Muslims marries his owned female (Aman), she will then have all rights if the wife. With out marriage, she is called Sariyyah.

Wassalam.

197346

Mahram . Marriage . Woman

Are my spouse's grand-uncles and great-grand-uncles Mahram to me after marriage and are a woman’s grand uncles Mahram for her? Please mention any differing opinions among our Marajeh if there are any.

As the real uncles are Mahrams, great grand uncles are Mahram as well.

This applies for husband and wife.

Wassalam.

196902

Woman . Khula . Divorce . Marriage

Is it possible for a woman to remarry the same man after obtaining a Khula without having to marry someone else first, as is typically required in a divorce?

She can remarry the same man after she invalidates the Khul’a by talking back what she gave to him,then the Khul’a will turn into usual Talaq and then she can re marry to him. Most people misunderstand the meaning if Khula and think that it a one sided divorce from the wife to her husband. Khul’a in fact is a type of Talaq in which the wife gives an amount to her husband to make agree to divorce her, i.e. she pays him to free her from the bond of marriage. If she takes back what she gave him, the Khul’a will be invalid and the divorce will be a usual one Talaq.

Wassalam.

196883

Istikhara . Qur'an . Marriage

I did Istikhara about marrying a girl I have known for almost two years, who appears religious and respectful. The result was Surah Al-A'raf, Ayah 150, mentioning 'Moses was angry.' Does this indicate a neutral or negative outcome for my Istikhara?

The scholar who did the Istikhara should be able to explain to you the result of it. If you are sure that the person is good in her religion and manners, then you can go ahead after paying a Sadaqa for more blessings.

Wassalam.

196622

Father . Khula . Wife . Life . Mother . Children . Marriage

Can a father not meet his child after having a Khula from wife and wait till he gets married and gets settled in his own life, as the child is in different country with her mother?

Islam does not allow anything which makes the child away from his parents. Cutting ties with any of the relatives is a sinful act, what about with the parents??

Even if the mother is divorced from the father, the rights of both of them on the child remain intact and both of them must maintain continuous contact between themselves child and his both parents. Father remains responsible to spend on his children till they are able to earn their livelihood.

Wassalam.

196197

Girl . History . Istikhara . Marriage . Dream

Should a girl marry a man she has feelings for and a history with, despite his weak religious commitment, especially if her Istikhara and dreams suggest positivity? She has repented and seeks a partner with strong Islamic values but struggles to let go.

She should consider that the most important criteria for a good life partner is religion and manners. Weak religious commitments can lead to possible dangerous results in the life especially after few years. What can stop him in the future from looking for other affairs if his religious commitments are weak?

I don't advise her to marry a person who is weak in his faith and religious practice even if she has feelings and history with him. The feelings will never remain for long if there is no authenticity in faith and trust in religion.

Wassalam.

194798

Parents . Marriage

What steps can I take if my parents disapprove of my marriage choice due to their bias against a revert, claiming he and his parents' religion make him unsuitable, even though there is no valid Islamic reason for their rejection?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 2 months ago

It is difficult to give recommendations without knowing the full circumstances of the case. It is advisable to get a senior scholar, or cleric, to meet with your parents and discuss the issue with them.

You may have heard the hadith that says that if a believer comes to ask for the hand of a young woman, and he is rejected for no Islamic reason, 'fitnah will spread on the earth.'

Cultural and family issues require sensitivity though. Your parents, and his parents need to be helped to overcome their fears. I knew of an English woman who married into a family and her mother-in-law initially threatened suicide, but after some years, all the other families in their community were saying that they wished they had a daughter-in-law like that English woman.

195909

Man . Sleep . Mother . Marriage

Is it acceptable for a married man to sleep beside his mother, cuddle her, or kiss her face, especially when his mother expects him to spend nights in her room and involves him in activities like back massages and Hajama appointments?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

Men and women, mahram or non-mahram, must always observe boundaries between each other. With mahram, the boundaries are less, but there still are boundaries.

Most of what you have mentioned in your question is crossing the boundary, or should be avoided, so as to not all into haram.

We cannot say he might have incestuous tendency, but it is not normal behaviour for a son to sleep right beside his mother and spend nights in her room, etc. He might have more feminine tendency, hence these activities, but it is also his mother to be responsible for this as well.

I would advise someone have a talk with both of them, about boundaries, and the possible shaytani influence that could corrupt anyone.

And Allah knows best