Family

195723

Husband . Daughter . Employment . Family . Children

I reside in the UK with my husband and our 10-month-old daughter. I am considering returning to work but struggling to choose between childcare or working, especially without family support. What would be the best option for me?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 months ago

Child care is more important and it is the best you can do for your child and family and you future in this life and hereafter. Whatever money you might get from working will never compensate the loss of your child when you spend long hours away from him. Child care and looking after your children in fact is the best investment.

Wassalam.

195679

Family . Mayyit . Grief . Death . Qur'an

Is it possible for the deceased to maintain a connection with their grieving family after death? Can they see or hear their circumstances or witness their family's daily lives? Please share references from the Quran and sayings of the Imams.

According to narrations, deceased soul can come to his house and family once a year, or once a month or weekly, depending on his degree. If he sees his family doing good deeds, he will be happy and if he sees them in bad situation, he will be sad. (Biharul Anwar V.6, page 257).

Wassalam.

194797

Beach . Family . Wedding

Is it considered allowed to hold a beach wedding after the Nikkah, with mixed family and friends from both the bride's and groom's sides, followed by a celebration party with Halal food and drinks?

Arranging mixed gathering between males and females with out proper Hijab is not permissible.

Wassalam.

194421

Family . Father . Brother

As a 33-year-old man involved in a family business, I find the environment unhealthy due to hurtful remarks from my father and older brother. How can I address this situation effectively?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

They have no right to direct hurtful remarks to you, and they will be responsible for that. Unfortunately, some family-run businesses become very toxic and a reason for severing ties with family members.

They might not know how these comments are hurting you, so explain it to them. They might not mean it as well. Many people express their frustration or anger with verbal outcry, saying bad things.

You must try to overlook that, for the sake of your work. Try to perfect your work contribution as well, so you dont give them an excuse to say anything but praise.

If things get worse, try to save up enough to do your own work, but do not leave on bad terms.

And Allah knows best

192806

Family . Silat al-Rahm

As a child, my deceased father severed ties with his family, so I am unaware if they are alive or where they might be. My maternal aunts also distanced themselves from us, and I do not know their status. What are my obligations concerning Silat al-Rahm?

You and every Muslim is obliged to search and contact his relatives and treat them nicely even if they had bad history with your parents or even with you. We must treat all our relatives in a nice way.

Wassalam.

148012

Fear . Family . Anxiety . Health . Du'a (Supplication)

I am worried about myself or a family member contracting an incurable disease, and my work in a medical environment heightens this fear. Is there a specific Dua that can help alleviate my anxiety regarding this situation?

There are many supplications for protection beside repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat and giving Sadaqa. These supplications are mentioned in many books like Mafateeh Al-Jinan. One of these Du'as is (أُعيذُ نفسي وديني وأهلي ومالي وما رَزَقَني رَبِّي بالله الواحد الأحد الذي لم يلد ولم يولد ولم يكن له كفوا أحد.

(O'EETHU NAFSI WA DEENI WA AHLI WA MAALI WA MACRAZAQANI RABBI BILLAH AL WAAHUD AL-AHAD ALLATHI LAM YALID WALAMBYIULAD WALAMBYAKON LAHU KOFOWAN AHAD)

Wassalam.

190527

Catholic . Man . Islam . Family . Future . Children . Marriage Proposal . Conversion to Islam

I have a proposal from a Catholic man who wants to convert to Islam and has family support. Are there any restrictions regarding his family, him, me, or our future children in this situation?

Bismihi ta'ala

Congratulations on your proposal. If he meets the right requirements for a spouse, and there is compatibility, and families are happy, go ahead.

No, there are no restrictions, other than the basic shar'i matters, like halal food, no alcohol, etc. Besides this, you and him can visit them in Christmas, and be with them, like any other family.

And Allah knows best

189081

Family . Friendship . Tribulation

How can a wealthy Muslim effectively support family, friends, non-believers, and strangers facing financial difficulties while maintaining a balanced approach?

Supporting needy relatives is very important and it come before supporting other needy friends or strangers. The Hadeeth states: There is no charity (on people) when your own relative is in need. لا صدقة وذو رحم محتاج.

After being sure that your own relatives are not in need, you can help your needy friends and others.

Wassalam.

185759

Sunni . Family . Sayyid . Zakat . Poor

What alternative financial support can we offer to our impoverished relatives, considering that Zakat is not permissible within our Sunni Sayyid family?

Zakat from Non Sayyed is not permissible to Poor Sayyed, but it is permissible from a Sayyed to a poor Sayyed. If you are a Sayyed, you can give your Zakat to your Sayyed relatives.

We should give to our relatives more than Khums and Zakat to see that their life is with out financial hardships just like our own life as much as we can.

Wassalam.

184886

Family . Woman . Conversion to Islam . Marriage

What role does my family have in helping a convert woman get married when I am the only Muslim in a family of Christian or atheist background, with no surviving male relatives and insufficient financial independence?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 10 months ago

This can sometimes be a difficult situation to navigate among Muslims who handle marriage through interactions between families.

In this situation, you will most likely meet your prospective husband outside of the circle of your own family. (For example, daily life, socializing, Islamic groups or events, online)

In that case, the role of your family here is ethical and social. A prospective husband should make an effort get to know your family and be respectful towards them. If your father were alive, it would be respectful and good form for him to seek your father's blessing for the marriage.

Of course, if your family is hostile towards Islam, or there are other issues, it may be that there will be no extensive relationship between him and them.

However, if a prospective husband does not want to meet your family at all, or is disrespectful, that is a red flag.

As for actual wedding arrangements, or who will pay for a wedding, this is something you, your prospective husband, and your families will have to sort out.

Sometimes, weddings can be a challenge for converts, especially in a marriage between a convert woman and a born-Muslim man. It can be awkward if the born-Muslim brings a large extended family to celebrate, and the convert seems alone. Conversely, the two families may disagree about which wedding customs are important to them.

On the other hand, in a marriage between two converts (who both do not come from Muslim cultures), it can be difficult to decide how to celebrate, since there is no cultural precedent for Muslim weddings.

Some converts sidestep this by skipping a wedding altogether, but many people regret this over time, so it is good to have a suitable wedding - even if it is simple and inexpensive - which is in line with both of your financial and social circumstances. A mosque wedding may also be an option, since it is both public and inexpensive. If the man does not want to have any wedding at all, that is also a red flag.

182413

Family . Parents . Domestic violence

How can I effectively separate myself from parents who are abusive and not practicing?

You should never separate yourself from your parents, but you should be away from their sinful acts, keeping your relationship with them as good as you can. Even if your parent were non believers, you must keep treating them nicely as parents but never share with them or support their wrong faith or sinful acts.

Wassalam.

153066

Responsibility . Husband . Family

Is it mandatory in Islam for daughters-in-law to take care of their husband's family, including doing household chores?

It is not obligatory on daughters-in-law to serve their husband's family, but it is good to do things which help your husband to be a good son for his parents as much as can. Kindness is always good but Islam does allows insulting or hurting others under any circumstances. Be kind as much as you can and remember the reward of kindness as well as the results in this life as every daughter-in-law will be a mother-in-law in the future.

Wassalam.