Children

Biologically, a child (plural: children) is a human being between the stages of birth and puberty, or between the developmental period of infancy and puberty. The legal definition of child generally refers to a minor, otherwise known as a person younger than the age of majority.

196622

Father . Khula . Wife . Life . Mother . Children . Marriage

Can a father not meet his child after having a Khula from wife and wait till he gets married and gets settled in his own life, as the child is in different country with her mother?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 month ago

Islam does not allow anything which makes the child away from his parents. Cutting ties with any of the relatives is a sinful act, what about with the parents??

Even if the mother is divorced from the father, the rights of both of them on the child remain intact and both of them must maintain continuous contact between themselves child and his both parents. Father remains responsible to spend on his children till they are able to earn their livelihood.

Wassalam.

195723

Husband . Daughter . Employment . Family . Children

I reside in the UK with my husband and our 10-month-old daughter. I am considering returning to work but struggling to choose between childcare or working, especially without family support. What would be the best option for me?

Child care is more important and it is the best you can do for your child and family and you future in this life and hereafter. Whatever money you might get from working will never compensate the loss of your child when you spend long hours away from him. Child care and looking after your children in fact is the best investment.

Wassalam.

194422

Wife . Marriage . Children

After nine years of marriage and two children, my wife and I have faced numerous arguments and even physical confrontations. Despite previous attempts to resolve our issues, I no longer have any feelings for her. What should I do next?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

Involve parents, elders, or your local scholar qualified for this to intervene. Have a meeting, try to find ways of reconciling. Try to exhort all effort in amending the relationship, so that if your only choice is divorce, you will do so consciously and responsibly.

Please watch this, as it will hopefully benefit you in making your decision the right way.

https://youtu.be/vRlB_LkIuVI?si=T7oAoMRv3aFvjHXJ

And Allah knows best

193463

Children . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage

Should my future children adhere to Sunni or Shia teachings since a Sunni boy wishes to marry me, although I identify as a Twelver Shia?

Your responsibility is to teach your children the real Islamic teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) and his Ahlul Bayt (AS) and bring them up as sincere followers of the Prophet and his Progeny (AS). If you have a reasonable possibility that this marriage might harm your faith and religious practice, you should then avoid it. You faith in Allah, the Prophet and Ahlul Bayt (AS) is more important your sentiments and emotions.

Wassalam.

192804

Rape . Children . God (Allah)

Why didn't Allah intervene in the recent case of a 6-year-old child who was raped? If Allah helps us when we ask, why was this child, who is too young to seek help, not offered protection or assistance?

Allah, The Exalted, Has Ordered in justice and fairness and prevented injustice and wrong. Allah (SWT) Helps those who do good and never Helps in wrong. Those who commit crimes do that with out any help from Allah but because if their criminal intentions and acts. Allah (SWT) Does not stop criminals but He never Helps them. Many prophets including Prophet Yahya (AS) and Infallible Imams were killed by the criminals. Allah (SWT) Will definitely punish the criminals but He Does not Stop them. Life is an exam for all people and the exam needs freedom to do good or bad then results will be according to what we intentionally did. It is wrong to think that Allah (SWT) should stop criminals from committing crimes. Such thinking is against the freedom of people to choose and opt to do good or bad then face the results of their deeds. Imam Hussain (AS) and his children and companions were killed in Karbala and Allah (SWT) never Stopped the criminals. They will definitely face the results of their crimes and victims will be granted great reward for their sufferings.

Wassalam.

105508

House . Wife . Children . Parents

I am a Muslim man, unemployed and living with my wife, three children, and mother-in-law, whom we care for. However, she mistreats me and constantly curses me and my parents. What actions should I take in this situation?

You need to tolerate her mistreatment and continue serving her and caring for her. Your tolerating her mistreatment will increase your reward.Wassalam.

190851

Sculpture . Children

Is it permissible for children to have a skeleton sculpture as a toy?

We don't have an authentic evidence to suggest that it is forbidden for children to play with such toys.. Nevertheless, it is better to avoid it as precaution.

Wassalam.

190845

Children . Life

What causes some children to endure challenging experiences, such as early family separation or lack of exposure to religion? Is it possible that these hardships result from their parents' sins and failure to repent to Allah?

Despite the fact that bad deeds of parent can leave bad impacts on their children, but it is not the only real reason always. There are very pious parents like prophet Noah as a Quranic example who had a disobedient son despite all his kindness, wisdom and nice manners. Some times grown up children fall under influence of their evil desires and Satan and bad company and they don't follow their pious parents.

Parents should treat their grown up children in a friendly way and avoid enforcing attitude which might create a bad reaction from the children against their parents.

Parents need to always try to protect their children from bad friends as much as possible.

Parents need to always pray for their children to be saved from Satan and Satanic people.

There are many supplications in Quran and Hadeeth in this matter.

Wassalam.

190527

Catholic . Man . Islam . Family . Future . Children . Marriage Proposal . Conversion to Islam

I have a proposal from a Catholic man who wants to convert to Islam and has family support. Are there any restrictions regarding his family, him, me, or our future children in this situation?

Bismihi ta'ala

Congratulations on your proposal. If he meets the right requirements for a spouse, and there is compatibility, and families are happy, go ahead.

No, there are no restrictions, other than the basic shar'i matters, like halal food, no alcohol, etc. Besides this, you and him can visit them in Christmas, and be with them, like any other family.

And Allah knows best

190211

Marriage . Divorce . Children . Mother . Brother . Time . Domestic violence . Guilt . Hell

After enduring 20 years in an abusive marriage, that ended in divorce, and raising my children alone, why do I still feel guilty and fear hell, especially when my mother and brother don't accept me and consistently make me feel bad whenever we interact?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 7 months ago

I am sorry to hear about your situation.

This is probably due to the psychology of being in an abusive marriage; possibly the abuser always said directly or indirectly that whatever happens is your fault. (Unfortunately, other people in society will also blame the woman, even if the husband is responsible for his choices.)

Also, in life, we internalize an internal judgmental voice (like a "parent") which judges us based on the social norms that we absorb from other people. This inner voice will continue to judge us even if those people are no longer around (and, in this case, it sounds like there are people who may still be actively reinforcing these ideas).

Many Muslim women, especially in our generation and above, internalized a voice that said that being a good Muslim woman means being married and having children, and a woman who gets divorced is bad. This idea is more about social expectations (or wanting the security of a marriage for a daughter) rather than Allah or faith.

However, it is common for Muslim women who grew up around these ideas to deal with guilt after divorce, and it can take time to revise one's ideas about what is genuinely important before Allah and in the next life and offload social expectations that no longer serve us.

Sometimes this is also a way of processing trauma as well.

In all these cases, probably the best way to handle it is through qualified psychological counselling/therapy as well as reflection on what is really important in matters of faith. Sometimes, just identifying the issue is a step forward.

Wishing you the best!

186909

Children . Marriage . Prophet Adam

Who did Qabeel marry in order to continue the generation, considering he killed Habeel and was the only child of Adam and Eve?

Bismihi ta'ala

Please read this article, and hopefully it will be beneficial and answer your question.

https://www.sheikh-alsalami.org.au/2017/11/22/how-did-adam-and-eve-pro-c...

186012

Sin . Infertility . Children

Is it sinful to avoid seeking infertility treatment or to not have a strong desire to have children?

Bismihi ta'ala

It would not be classified as a sin, but Islam does strongly encourage having children, and therefore, one must strive as much as they can to conceive children, and multiple children as well. By natural means, or medical, as long as all shar'i requirements are observed.

And Allah knows best.